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"Our little boy Jasper was almost two before I heard about Sheyne and initially I was a bit reluctant to call her as I had tried what was called 'control crying' with my older boy and it was dreadful and counter productive. But my husband encouraged me to try Sheyne as a friend of his had raved about this woman whom they called the 'baby whisperer' so one day Sheyne breezed in all smiles and hearty laughs and proceeded to turn our lives around.
Jasper had a number of different sleep routines- with the nanny he expected to be patted on his back till he fell a sleep, with his Dad he wanted to be sung to sleep, with his Grandma it was whatever worked for her and with me he wanted to be breast fed. Unfortunately when he woke at night he wanted to be breast-fed again and after twenty months of that I was seriously over it. The darling child had started off life as a champion sleeper but at about three or four months his parents messed it up big time. It was not so much sharing the bed but the constant tugging at the breast that eventually pushed me into action.
Sheyne was not impressed with the household's sleeping arrangements. My husband usually landed up in the studio room as he snored, the two year old landed up in bed with me and at about 3:00 p.m. or 4:00 p.m. the six year old came to join us. So I was not having a good time.
At first she warned me that with an older child she might take a little longer than usual and that it would be a bit tough at times.
She certainly worked a miracle. Within two nights she had Jasper sleeping through the night in his own cot and the older child desperate to please her and sleeping in his own bed.
Sheyne's insistence on routine and consistency sounds simple but it is the key. The active play- dinner-bath-reading stories routine and constantly letting the child know what is happening worked perfectly with our boy. She made us so much more aware of the different cries a child makes and alerted us to the partial wakening syndrome and how disruptive it can be to disturb a child in that state. Sheyne tuned us in more finely that I ever-imagined possible. The crying management was gentle and quite scientific- not what I had experienced previously.
Initially we baulked at the lack of spontaneity in the daily routine but understood this was a threshold time.
We stuck religiously to the day sleeps and night time routine for over a year and now I am happy to say we do deviate occasionally but when things get a bit out of kilter, back comes the strict routine. Our child is happy to put himself to sleep and actually loves his evening ritual. On occasions when we are running behind schedule he will ask to go to bed. There is simply no fuss. Having had another child who tried everything to delay sleep time- asking for more food, running around, getting up, calling out etc. this time it is an absolute pleasure, sensible parenting really.
Sheyne is a highly perceptive human being and looks at the Big Picture and not just at the child's sleeping patterns- the dynamics of the household, communication, eating patterns etc. so she was invaluable on a number of levels.
I am forever grateful to Sheyne for her wisdom, talent, love of children and common sense. She is a great lady."
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